The definition of an AfricanaQ gentleman is someone who has impeccable behaviour, who knows what to do at the right time….
We believe that to be a gentleman you should possess the following – in order to be ‘first amongst equals’
- Always be reserved and have a powerful presenceWe believe it is key that a gentleman keeps his counsel. He must always dress with style, and in an understated way, but most importantly, he must not run down others, or always make his presence felt by being obnoxious, you must ditch the typical ‘Do you know how I am’ mantra which we have witnessed on many occasions’ in hotels, airports,, parties etc. A gentleman must respect those around him, and play it cool.
- A gentleman must always be truthful…Always tell the truth – beautiful relationships are built on this foundation. A gentleman must also be loyal. The only time you are allowed to lie is if you are taking her on a trip to a beautiful part of Africa like Kenya, Mauritius etc (but you want to make it a surprise)
- Ladies first …still rings trueWhether it’s coming out of the lift or a room – do give way to the lady. A lady really appreciates the gesture. Also, to add, it’s a time honoured gesture of affection to offer your seat and open the door for a lady.
- A gentleman is always punctual…..If you are taking out a lady on a first date (or whenever), do always be on time (traffic on the road is no excuse..) This goes a long way in making a lasting impression.
- A gentleman always make the first moveWe do accept that social media now plays a significant role in dating and chatting up ….but we at AfricanaQ are old fashioned and unashamed about it – when you make eye contact always make the first move, even if she declines.
- A gentleman must always offer to pick up the billYes we know, that ladies are now more financially and economically independent than yester-years, but it is still gentlemanly to offer to pick up the bill (and please, the excuse of ‘I left my wallet at home’ is a no-no)
- Don’t make her cry…A gentleman must protect her lady (yes, we sound chauvinistic), and always make her happy – do not be too proud to say sorry. If you are going to make her cry – make sure it’s a cry of joy (e.g. buying her a diamond ring)
- A gentleman must have a firm handshake.When you meet another gentleman, please keep the handshake firm…weak handshake and avoiding eye-contact should never happen to a true gentleman (even if you are meeting her father for the first time)
- A gentleman must always speak with clarityDon’t be vague, definitely don’t doublespeak and please no mumblings. A lady must be clear on your intentions – it saves a lot of hassle.
- A gentleman never judgesYou should not judge her, or her friends, or her family members. keep it simple and base your opinions on facts.