Words: From Africana Q
An AfricanaQ gentleman has to be the epitome of class and good manners. It is common to see men who lack both and speaking to some women, they have spoken their minds on how they believe a gentleman should behave. In this era of women empowerment, it is old speak to say that women don’t know what they want, because the modern AfricanaQ lady knows exactly what she is looking for in a man. And that ranges from the car the drive, to how they speak and hold conversations………
The feedback to the AfricanaQ gentleman:
Constantly being on the phone
Before you shout, but the women do this to – when you are in the company of a lady, it is imperative that you give her your full and undivided attention. Taking calls from Lagos or Nairobi during conversations or dinner is a No No. Sharing Whatsapp jokes or videos is definitely off-putting. So guys keep away your phone.
Talking too much about yourself…..
It is a privilege to be in the company of a beautiful lady, so if and when you go out for a drink or dinner. Do listen more to what she has to say – ask her about her day or her job. Ask her about the Kampala traffic. A woman will switch off if you constantly talk about yourself, your assets and your achievements. Please be subtle – when you say less about your rolex and your neet worth she might just appreciate you more
Rule#1: Avoid monologues. A woman needs to be rest assured that you will give her attention otherwise your female companion will feel neglected and that is not a good way to start a relationship .
Bad table manners
Yes we did use the word ‘Bad’ this is where the game can be won or lost. What are the behaviours NOT expected from a gentleman; do not chew loudly and with your mouth open, and definitely do know how to hold your curtlery properly. A woman will be worried that she will be unable to present you to friends and families, if you have bad table manners
Most of all, do keep your phone out of sight, and engage with small talks – Also, if you have to acknowledge an associate across the table, I beg you to do so subtly – you really don’t have to shout across tables.
We are not saying we know it all, so let us start with this few gentlemen steps together …….